Hurry up and wait
Once I decided to apply to be a surrogate, I found out very quickly that it's a process of hurry up and wait! I found an agency I loved, and they were excellent at moving the process along as quickly as possible.
The requirements to become a surrogate with this agency are:
- Uncomplicated pregnancies and deliveries, as documented by medical records.
- Between 21-41 years of age
- Body Mass Index (BMI) of no higher than 33.
- Has the support of her family. If married or partnered, the surrogate must have her partner’s support. Also, the surrogate and her partner/primary support person must agree to participate in a social work screening.
- Has delivered a child of her own, and is currently parenting at least one child.
- Is financially secure.
- Leads a stable, responsible lifestyle.
- Is willing to travel for IVF process.
- Does not use illegal drugs, smoke cigarettes, or abuse alcohol.
- Is a citizen, legal resident or legal immigrant of the United States.
- Does not participate in government aid programs.
- Lives in a surrogate-friendly state in the United States (can not live in Nebraska, Louisiana, Michigan or New York).
- Has a valid driver’s license.
I submitted my initial application on December 2, 2019. My application was accepted the next day, and I was given access to a private online portal to continue on with a more extensive application process. Some of the steps needed were:
- Contacting my OB and hospital to ensure my delivery records were still available (they were.)
- Submitting photos of me, the kids, and important people in my life
- Completing a matching questionnaire, where I was able to give my preferences to the type of couple I would be matched with, including hetero/homosexual, domestic/international, if I was ok with transferring 2 embryos, etc
- An extensive profile of myself and medical history
- Medical records release
- Authorizing background checks
- Signing a commitment to match
- Writing a letter to my future Intended Parents (IP's)
After completion of all the steps in my patient portal, the agency requested my medical records for review. I received my medical pre-approval on December 12 and was connected with a social worker who would oversee my screening call, psychological exam, and emotional health. Over the next week or so, I had a two hour Skype call with my social worker, and hour psychological evaluation via Skype, and my support person (my best friend) also had an hour call. After all this, on December 19, I got the amazing news that I was accepted as a surrogate and would be ready to match!